How to Make a Guy See a Future with You—Without Saying a Word About It!
It’s normal for you to want commitment in a relationship.
When you have loved a man for quite some time, it is absolutely normal to expect some sort of discussion about the future.
It doesn’t even have to be serious like a “sit down, I want to talk to you about something” conversation.
It could be just a statement when you are joking around.
Anything that shows he is considering a future with you.
It can be very hurtful to be talking to your boyfriend, and then he says something like, “I will definitely tell MY kids about you.”…
It could make you feel like you are wasting your time in the relationship.
Everyone wants security…
And if you deliberately searched for this article, you have been facing a lack of commitment from the man you love.
You love him and you feel like he loves you too.
The only issue is you are not sure he sees a future with you and you don’t want to appear too desperate by speaking about it.
How do you make a guy see a future with you without saying a word about it?
We will be exploring some helpful tips in this article…
And none of them included expecting him to read your mind.
Let’s get started!
How to Make a Guy See a Future with You—Without Saying a Word About It!
1. Start preparing for the future
You want a guy to see a future with you?
You need to start by preparing for the future you can see.
I know you may think this is weird.
We should be talking about the guy, right?
But your future depends mainly on you.
Before thinking about the future you want the man to see, think about the future you see for yourself and start working towards it.
Many ladies are so eager for a guy to see a future with them that they abandon theirs just to focus mainly on making a guy see how well they complement his life.
I understand that women have a biological clock that keeps ticking as the years go by but you must never allow the noise of that ticking to drown out other aspects of your life.
You have a future, too.
Work towards it.
Live a purposeful life.
Live a full life.
I am sure you are wondering how this will help you get the guy to see a future with you.
I am coming to that.
Focus on your dreams and passion.
Start building the future you want from now.
Gone are the days when guys wanted to marry ladies who seemed to be doing nothing with their lives.
Nowadays, many men are interested in purposeful women.
Women who go around their activities with confidence and purpose.
They want someone who already has a clear view of her future.
This is one way to make that guy see a future with you, and even if he is too shortsighted to see one, your life will already be improved because you focused on building a future for yourself.
2. Be an important part of his life
This is the surest way of making a guy see a future without even saying a word.
A friend of mine once held a summer job at a pharmacy.
He worked there for a month before he had to get back to school but before he left, he had made himself so indispensable to them that they told him he could come back every time school was on holiday.
They held the job for him without him asking because he was an important part of their company.
This also applies to romantic relationships.
If you are not an important part of a guy’s life, you really can’t and shouldn’t be expecting him to see a future with you.
Guys want a future with women that are vital to their lives.
Do you give him intelligent advice when he seems to be at a crossroads?
Have you ever supported him when he was down and needed a friendly face?
If you have done any of these once, then you need to do them often.
If you haven’t started doing them, you need to.
For men, it’s not just about your beauty.
It is really about the role you have played in his life.
Make yourself his go-to person when he wants to confide in someone or needs advice and you will have made yourself the most important person in life.
Now, just wait for him to actually tell you what you have always wanted him to say to you.
3. Value yourself
Dear lady, treat yourself like the valued gem that you are.
Just because you need a man to see a future with you doesn’t mean you should be all over him, seeking attention.
The urge to this may come but you need to resist it.
That urge is counterproductive and it could undo all the previous work you have put into this.
Your desire for commitment shouldn’t take precedence over everything else in your life.
Throwing yourself at a guy all because you want him to see a future with you may make him see the wrong future with you.
He may start imagining how unbearable the future with you will be.
When you start making the guy think so much about how he needs space, it is a sign that you are on the wrong track.
He will start avoiding you.
What you need to do is do something you are passionate about.
You don’t have anything you are passionate about except him?
Well, you had better get a passion soon before he sees the wrong future with you.
Read books, work, see movies, have fun with your friends…
Basically, live a full life without him.
Get yourself involved in other activities apart from calling or spending time with your boyfriend.
I am not saying you shouldn’t spend quality time with him.
I am saying you should also spend quality time with yourself.
There are basically two things you can do to make a guy see a future with you.
The first is to make the future look great by showing how valuable you are to his life and the second is to value yourself so he can value you too.
One mistake you shouldn’t make is acting distant and cold to him.
I asked you to value yourself not fight with him..
While you are focusing on yourself, reach out to him regularly.
Constant communication is another important thing needed in any relationship.
If you act distant and cold to him, you may end up pushing into the arms of other ladies.
Spend time with your man!
Don’t just be too clingy.
You shouldn’t be all over him.
Don’t let the novelty of being with you wear off so fast because you can’t spend some time away.
4. Initiate romantic dates with him
Initiating dates is not a guy’s job.
It’s everyone’s duty.
From time to time, you need to initiate romantic dates with him.
Spend quality time with him.
Doing this will totally assure him that you also love him and want to spend time with me.
The problem with many ladies is that they hear “value yourself” and they go overboard with it.
They start acting hard to get, wanting the guy to keep on chasing them even when they are in a relationship together.
Initiate dates, Queen!
It doesn’t need to be a candlelit dinner.
Pizzas would suffice.
It’s not the food that matters.
The intention is what matters.
See a movie with him.
Take a walk with him or go for a picnic.
Whatever you decide to do, spend quality time with him.
That’s how you build your connection with him..
That’s how he starts seeing the future with you.
5. Be patient and appreciative of the little things he does
Sometimes, ladies can be so desperate for some sort of commitment from a guy that they forget to appreciate the little things he does.
Commitment is great but you shouldn’t rush into it.
If you are sure he loves you, then all you need to do is to be patient.
However, while you patiently build a strong relationship with him, you need to appreciate the little things he does.
In love, the little things matter, too.
Don’t be so distracted by the need for security that you ignore the fact that he is attentive to you.
Don’t be dismissive of how supportive he is.
Don’t ever forget that he is that one constant comfort in your life.
Don’t ever lose sight of this fact.
Appreciate him for doing it.
In doing so, you are preparing him to consider a future with a lady who doesn’t nag and who knows how to appreciate even the tiniest efforts.
Ultimately, you need to know that focusing on yourself will help you improve into a better version of yourself.
A version that any sensible man would want to spend a lifetime with.
So, be patient and utilize this period of waiting well.
I am rooting for you, Queen!
