How To Be Kind To Yourself
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Ever catch yourself being your own worst critic? Wonder why you’re so hard on yourself when you’d never speak that way to a friend? If these questions hit close to home, you’re not alone.
In our fast-paced, achievement-driven world, it’s easy to forget that self-kindness is just as important—if not more—than external validation. Whether you’ve had a tough day at work, found yourself overwhelmed with life’s demands, or simply feel like you can’t catch a break, learning to be kind to yourself is crucial for your mental well-being.
In this blog post, we’ll explore simple yet effective ways to practice self-kindness, because you deserve the same compassion you give to others.
Ready to turn that inner critic into your biggest cheerleader? Let’s get started!
1. Be Your Own Cheerleader
Hey you, when was the last time you hyped yourself up? If you can’t remember, it’s about time! Start swapping self-criticism for self-love. Instead of beating yourself up over mistakes, give yourself a round of applause for trying.
Imagine how you’d speak to your best friend—would you clown on them for slipping up, or hype them up with an “I believe in you”? Give them comforting advice, 5 hugs and 3 pats on the back.
Try saying things like, “I did my best,” or “I’m proud of myself for at least trying.” Your words have power, so crank up that positivity and lift yourself higher just like you would for others!
2. 10-Minute Self-Love Sesh
Think self-care takes too much time? Nope! Even just 10 minutes a day can work wonders. Spend that time doing something that fills you with joy.
Light a candle and chill out with some meditation, read a few pages of a book, dance in the shower like nobody’s watching, watch a hilarious comedy on YouTube or stretch it out!
Whatever you choose to do, make it a must-do part of your day. You’ll be amazed at how those 10 magical minutes can totally shift your vibe.
3. Love Letters to Number One (That’s You!)
Remember the warm fuzzies of receiving a love letter? Why not send one to yourself? It’s not crazy, just sweet self-love!
Jot down all the things you adore about yourself. Your strength, humor, caring nature, or killer style – celebrate it all! Keep these letters close for a self-hug boost when needed. Positive vibes and self-love manifesting at its finest!
4. Clear Out Your Mental Closet
Is your brain feeling like a chaotic mess? Too many thoughts crammed in with no space to breathe?
Try a daily brain dump! Spend just five minutes each day jotting down everything on your mind – tasks, worries, dreams. Quick and easy! No need for perfection, just get it all out. Clearing mental clutter leaves room for positivity and creativity to shine!
5. Boundaries are Sexy
Are you a people-pleaser? (Meet your big sister then, aka me!) I know exactly how innate it is and that no matter how many times people ask you to “just say no”, it almost never works.
But I also know it can be draining sometimes. And nobody gets it except you.
Honestly, it really is upon you to set boundaries. Trust me, saying no once in a while won’t make the world implode or make you look rude.
Do it in the name of self-care. If something doesn’t serve your well-being or aligns with your values, it’s okay to decline. Think of it as protecting your energy. The more you practice, the easier it gets – and bonus, people will actually respect you more for it!
6. Solo Dates are not lame
Whattt? Going out? ALONE?!
Oh yes, and it’s not stupid. Nor is it weird or lonely. Actually, once you get comfy with it, it is kinda rewarding and freeing.
Whether you’re chilling at your go-to coffee spot, catching a movie alone, or strolling through the park, solo dates are like hitting the refresh button for your soul.
You don’t need anyone else to enjoy life’s little joys. Embrace independence and find peace and happiness within yourself. And the best part? You call all the shots without any compromises!
7. Give yourself the Best Friend Treatment
Just like you would be there for your bestie through thick and thin, why not show yourself the same love and support?
You’d listen to her cry 10 times an hour or take her out when she’s feeling low. You’d drop her cute messages/notes to uplift her mood and 50 kisses whenever she’s in the mood.
Be kind, patient, and uplifting to yourself when you’re feeling down. When you’re feeling down, ask yourself what your best friend would do for you. Then ask yourself, can you not do it all for you?
It might seem strange at first, but trust me, it feels amazing to be your own best friend!
8. Unplug to Recharge
We’re always connected, but are we truly connecting? Take some time each week to disconnect from your devices. No social media, no emails, just you.
Use this opportunity to do something that feeds your soul—whether it’s reading a book, going on a hike, getting creative with painting, or simply being present in the moment. Reconnecting with yourself and nature is a powerful way to rejuvenate your mind and spirit in the real world filled with animals, birds, and so much more.
9. Celebrate Your Wins, Big or Small!
When your life is in shambles, I know believing that you’re actually a very amazing human being is difficult. And being kind to yourself could be the last thing on your mind. But babe, let’s start by doing the bare minimum.
Let’s start by celebrating yourself for the littlest of tasks, like waking up a little earlier than usual. They might seem insignificant, but they build up your confidence and morale.
- Finally conquered that mountain of laundry? Treat yourself to a latte.
- Nailed that big project at work? Time for a movie night celebration!
- Woke up 30 minutes earlier? Give yourself a high five! You deserve it!
10. Strive for Progress, Not Perfection
Perfection is an illusion, yet we often strive for it. Why do we put this pressure on ourselves? I used to be a perfectionist, constantly stressing over every tiny detail until, one fine day, I realized it was draining my joy. Even after delivering “perfectionism,” I was unhappy and always felt like I could’ve done better. Or someone could have.
If these are your constant feelings too, ask yourself—why does it even matter that you touch that perfect point? Are you being rewarded any better for putting yourself through all that pressure? Is it only you or everybody else is also putting the same amount of effort into that task?
I’m sure the answers would be a little comforting. It’s time to cut yourself some slack. Making mistakes is part of the journey, so embrace them! Progress is key, not perfection. Trust me, life gets a whole lot more fun when you let go of the need to be flawless.
11. Comparison is the Thief of Joy!
Ever find yourself scrolling through social media, feeling envious of someone else’s seemingly perfect life? It’s a TRAP! Everyone’s journey is different, and what you see online is just a highlight reel.
Tell me one person who’s uploading a reel of them crying and going through downs. I mean, it cannot be possible that only you struggle with lows, can it?
Instead, focus on your path and celebrate your own milestones. There will always be people ahead of you, behind you, and right beside you. And hey, if Instagram is bringing you down, take a break! It’s no biggie!
12. Practice Gratitude Daily
If you take away one thing from this, it should be this—the more you’re grateful for, the more you’ll attract and get. Be it kindness to yourself, a great cup of coffee, or $100,000!
Plus, it shifts your focus from negative to positive!
Pro tip: Get a journal, and on the right side, write all the things bothering you with your right hand, and on the left side, write all the things you’re grateful for with your left hand. (Of course, vice versa if you’re a leftie!)
13. Find Joy in the Little Things
Ever had your day brightened by a simple act of kindness, like a random compliment or someone opening door for you? It’s like a burst of sunshine, right?
So why not sprinkle some joy on yourself? Whether it’s savoring a peaceful moment with tea, soaking in nature’s beauty on a quick stroll, or indulging in guilt-free chocolate, these small delights can make your day sparkle.
For me, it’s the smell of a fresh book or that first sip of coffee. What lights up your world? Make a list and weave them into your daily routine. You deserve those pockets of happiness!
14. Carve Out ‘Me Time’ Weekly
When was the last time you pampered yourself? With life zooming by, it’s easy to forget about YOU. That’s where scheduling a ‘Me Day’ every week steps in to save the day.
This day is all about doing what makes your heart sing. Dive into that show you love, lose yourself in a hobby, or simply hit snooze all day long – the aim is to recharge and reconnect with YOU.
I introduced my ‘Me Days’ awhile back, and let me tell you – they’ve worked wonders for my mood and energy levels.
On my ‘Me Day,’ I usually start with a lazy morning, dance around the house on my fav music, and maybe treat myself to an everyday shower with a full-fldged skincare and haircare routine. Later take myself out on a dinner date and end the day with binge watching a new series!
15. Surround Yourself with Positivity
You know how they say you are who you hang out with most? Well, it’s true! Surrounding yourself with positivity can seriously boost your outlook on life. No need to cut ties with everyone negative – just cozy up more with those who lift you up and bring out your best self.
